Healing A Broken Heart

Posted in Multiply Jan 21 08

For my broken-hearted friends, words of wisdom I found in a book, "Life Lessons for My Sisters". Always remember that things will fall into place.

"Love is the food

of your soul

never give up on it

you need it

for your spirit to breathe"

You can get through this. I know it feels painful -- as though your heart's been pulled out of your mouth. But tell yourself, "I can get through this." Repeat it as often as you need to. Say it until you believe it. "I can get through this."

When love ends, we can feel confused and hurt. We can feel as if we'll never love again. We can feel like "the one" just got away. But true love does not get away from you. True love is there when you need it, when you are ready for it. So realize that although you loved someone, you have to let him go so that your true love can enter.

Don't do foolish things when you're in pain. Don't try to make him hurt the way he hurt you. Just let it go. I know it sounds simple. I know your heart is in pain. But if you want to deal with this, you're going to have to think realistically. You're going to have to pay attention to the reasons why the relationship ended. You're going to have to think about the part you played in the breakup. Analyze the relationship. See what lesson you can learn from it.

Even when I felt like my heart was breaking, I stopped and told myself, "I was supposed to learn this. He was supposed to teach me this." No, it didn't make me feel that much better, but it helped me to learn my lesson, and that was the ultimate point.

Everything happens for a reason. If a relationship is ending, let it end. Sometimes, fighting is just delaying the inevitable. Sometimes you will just bring yourself more pain if you don't let go. Know when it's time to take a breath and let go.

Unsolicited Advice

Posted in Multiply Nov 16 07

I couldn't help it, I thought of someone as soon as I read this:

"Let us stop pretending. Let us give up hiding behind masks. Let us cease trying to impress people. In the end, we will not only deceive others but ourselves as well, as we will no longer know who we really are. By our deception, we will destroy our very selves." - Bo Sanchez, "Embraced"

For the person who fills up her calendar with pointless activities to keep herself from facing her hurts and fears, tigilan na ang pagkukunwaring masaya ka. Dahil alam naman nating lahat na hindi. Face it. Things will someday, hopefully look up. Right now, though, things hurt like hell. So take it, live it, dwell in it, so that you can one day get up, let go, and let God.

Nakakainis kasing makita na nagtatapang-tapangan ka na alam naman nating lahat na durog na durog ka na. Halatang ang mga ngiti mo, fake. Kasi hindi ka masaya. Hoy, ok lang naman na minsan, ikaw naman ang talo. Hindi naman araw araw valedictorian ka. Ganyan talaga ang buhay. Wag ka nang mag-magaling pa. Ok naman ang self-confidence, pero mas ok ang humility.

Yun ang kulang sa'yo.

Unsolicited advice lang, baka sakaling hindi masabi ng mga "kaibigan" mo.

Survival of The Clever

Posted in Multiply Oct 25 07

In life, there are dogs, leopards and monkeys. We just have to decide to which category we belong.

A wealthy man decides to go on a safari in Africa. He takes his faithful pet dog along for company. One day the dog starts chasing butterflies and before long he discovers that he is lost. So, wandering about the dog notices a leopard heading rapidly in his direction with the obvious intention of having lunch.

The dog thinks, "Boy, I'm in deep doo doo now."

Then he notices some bones on the ground close by, and immediately settles down to chew on the bones with his back to the aproaching black-spotted feline. Just as the leopard is about to leap, the dog exclaims loudly, "Man, that was one delicious leopard. I wonder if there are any more around here?"

Hearing this, the leopard halts his attack in mid-stride. Suddenly a look of terror comes over spotty cat, and he slinks away into the trees. "Whew," excliams the leopard. "That was close. That dog nearly had me."

Meanwhile, a monkey, who had been watching the whole scene from a nearby tree, figures he can put this knowledge to good use and trade it for protection from the leopard. So, off he goes. But the dog sees the monkey going after the leopard with great speed, and figured that something must be afoot.

The monkey soon catches up with the leopard, spills the beans and strikes a deal for himself with the leopard. The slink cat is furious at being made a fool and says, "Here monkey, hop on my back and see what's going to happen to that conniving canine."
Now the dog sees the leopard coming with the monkey on his back, and thinks, "What am I going to do now?" But instead of running, the dog sits down with his back to his attackers and pretending he has not seen them yet. And just when they get close enough to hear, the dog says,

"Where's that monkey? I just can never trust him! I sent him off half an hour ago to bring me another leopard, and he's still not back!!!"

Now that's what I call being cool, calm and collected.

In life, it would be best to be the wise dog in the story. Be cool. Be calm. Use wisdom to deal with people of different personalities. Respond and do not react. Master your moods and never reveal your emotions to people who would take advantage of you.

Trust in God and let the revenge business be His. Simply do your honest best and pay no attention to the losers and jerks around you. Never forget that the best revenge is a life well lived.

As written by Francis J. Kong in his book, "The Early Bird Catches The Worm, But The Second Mouse Gets The Cheese"

Top Five Things I Should Thank Ex from Hell For

Posted in Multiply October 5 07

There will always be something good that comes out of bad things. This "Ex from Hell" fiasco brought about a lot of realizations and good things in my life that wouldn't have come out had she not been such a b*tch. Here are some of the things I must remind myself to thank her for:

1. "Tondo" style fighting. I do my best to always defend myself with grace and composure, but Ex from Hell (EFH) started mudslinging and name calling. She was such an expert in this kind of thing, that it made me think that she used to sell fish in the market. Palengkera style kasi siya eh. Hahaha!No offense to the market people, I swear, mas may breeding pa kayo kesa dito. But again, I have to thank her. If not for her, I wouldn't have ever experienced kanto fighting. Of course, I need more practice to reach her black belt status in this field.

2. Knowing the real masters. I am a lowly servant. I bow to the supreme knowledge of the REAL masters. These people have revealed to and shared their "gift" with me when the fighting got tough that required the tough to keep fighting. Kumbaga sa Kill Bill, these are the people who trained Uma on how to KILL BILL. You know who you are, ladies! :*

3. Uniting with Happy Wives Passionate About Extinguishing the "Salots" in Marriage. Special mention shempre si Cyd (*Hi, Cyd!). Among those who agreed and empathized, this girl is the one who showed me how honorable it is to fight against the monsters to defend the happy married life. Sabi nga niya sa testimonial niya for me as a warning to the EFH, "Maghanap ka ng lalaki mo, tigilan mo ang mga may asawa. Nakakadilim ka ng paningin." Well said, Cyd. I totally agree.

4. Identifying wolves in sheepskin. Some people expressed to me that I may have been a little too brutal in my blog entries about EFH. I only feel sorry for them since they couldn't identify wolves in sheepskin. I could. I have identified one. Be warned, not everyone who acts like a prom queen IS a queen. Some are palengkeras pretending to be the sweetest ever. Careful, these are the types who normally scheme behind your back and cut your throat while you are sleeping.

5. Appreciating more the bond between a husband and a wife. I guess I'm still getting used to the idea that when you get married, you're no longer "you and me" but "US". This got reinforced when the word war transpired. Throughout this stupid fiasco, my Richard had always been my staunchest ally. EFH might have thought she was battling with me, when in fact she was battling with US. If only she was still with her hubby, then it would have been "them" versus "us". We had so many laugh trips over this, I wonder who she laughs with about this fiasco.

5. Appreciating what I have. As Richie had expertly put in words(*Hi, Richie!) in her message to me, I do have a terrific marriage and that she believes Richard and I will grow old happy. That I should just celebrate my life and continue to be happy! Don't you worry, dear, I do know what great treasure I have and I am celebrating every single day.

See, despite the many hurtful words thrown at each other and all the lies EFH had to invent, there are still things worth picking out from this stupid fiasco. So thanks, dear! :D

Swatting the Mosquito

POSTED IN FRIENDSTER SEPTEMBER 21, 2007

Richard said: "Why do you even pay attention to that worthless mosquito outside our mosquito net, when we're already peacefully sleeping and enjoying our rest?! Best to stay away from it as it's only objective in buzzing is to ditract you into letting it draw your blood and give you dengue."
Hahaha. I love my husband. Words of wisdom. He's right, why pay attention to the worthless ramblings of a worthless person?! God forbid, she might even think she's important!

Welcome to my Brand New Shiny Site!

Hi everyone! This is the first time I will be using this, but I do intend to import some of my entries from another blogsite!

So patience, patience my dear friends! This is gonna take a while! :D

I hope you enjoy whatever you read here, and please when you read, do try to pick something up, even a life lesson from my entries, no matter how small. If I learn that you got something out of what I put, even in a small way, will definietly make my day!